Do not feel bad she is stressed out and sad

Let her deal with her own consequences

Assume kids know what mom is doing too

She is hurting you and them

There are consequences

You being uncomfortable means if does affect you

But maybe a lot less than it did me

I was repulsed and repelled

Do not let her goad you

Stay in control of you

Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving