Im sorry but my phone is nof letting me copy my old post. Im trying not to use computer for fear my wife discovers. But maybe it just doesnt matter anymore?
Sandi2 if you are out there i need you!!! Im almost 100 pct certain my wife has really fallen for a guy she works with. To recap my wife dropped the bomb in FeB 2018. At first i tried to talk to her and persuade her to give it some time, try councilingetc. Not to mention that its the worst timing for our kids. One is going off to college and another next year, with the third starting high school. Because of a bad mortgage the financial impact will be devastating.
Then i came across MWD and db. I stopped trying to persuade and influence and worked on GAL and detachment. She agreed to see a councilor but told him that she has nothing more to give and that she wants a divorce. I accepted and we agreed to stay together for awhile to work on our communication so that we could coparent effectively and not have resentment. We also didnt want to disrupt kids during school.
Part of agreement was for her to stay in the house when it came time. That way my kids were not going to be uprooted. But we werent going to do anything till we worked on us. Couple months go by and we are getting along fine. Spending time etc. Then i noticed a mood and had a gut feeling something was up. I discovered a cover letter and application to rent a house for her and three kids. I was sick. Felt so betrayed and disgusted. Was i going to show up one day and find my kids gone?
Then there is the probablility of a EA/PA with a guy at work. I noticed her liking lots of pictures on facebook of him working out(such a tool....who has someone take pictures of them working out) and her best friend was also liking some of his photos and he was of her? Big redflag. Supposedly they met once in a group setting after a Christmas party. I also noticed that my wife and om like oyster bars in his home town. But then just last night i found that they both like and belong to spiritual/relationship site-blog-community...tiny buddah. I was absolutely sick because i know what that means. Its no coincidence especially if you look at my previous threads. Im still shocked that she would go down this road. Not sure if mlc or what. But i have a feeling shes a ww. Any advice/thoughts is def appreciated. Thank you....feeling really sad. Weve been together all our adult life. And i love and miss my wife deeply. I look at my daughter and she looks just like her mother. I worry for all my kids. Hope we come out of this ok.
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