I followed the advice here to generally avoid all R discussions
And that was great advice
But only you know you and your situation
When w would say she loves me
At some point it hurt too much
I told her stop saying that
She insisted
If you loved me you would not treat me like do do
We got in a big fight
All of my anger spilled out
It was healthy for me after bottling it up for so long
And it did help to turn things around for me
She dropped her OM and the divorce
It is in the somewhere in the book under after LRT and ultimatums
You can only do and say these things when you really mean them
And are willing to follow through
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving