Is there hope?

[Gordie]

I have been where you are

You can only control you

Yes my w thought she could do this and we could still be friends even friends with benefits

I told her that I had no interest in that and it hurt too much

Basically I went in house NC during this period

Inside I fluctuated between anger and despair

But I had to be strong for my kids

W was just a stranger to me

Besides logistics related to kids

We had nothing to discuss

At first she wanted to tell me about her exploits

I had to be very firm that I had no interest in her activities with OMs

When she would try to tell me things it hurt too much

I could not listen and validate

I just ended the conversation to protect myself

This was hard

Very hard

It is soul crushing

So please take care of yourself

No one else is taking care of you