Yep, it is all part of the MLC parcel. She reminds me of someone who is sitting down have a chat w/her father, not her husband. In her mind, she sees nothing wrong w/what she is doing. You have to try to remember that, in her mind, she left the marriage about 18-24 months ago and a divorce is just a piece of paper to her.
Her empathy chip is broken and right now, she may feel a little bit guilty, but I would venture to say that the "chat" was to take a temperature check to see where you were at w/her going out all night as well.
You are not able to rationalize w/an irrational person because their vision is completely tunnel vision at the moment and it is all about them and only them.
Keep the focus on you and your children as much as possible.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
