Can I really do this #3

[Dtrmned]

Thank Sandi.

There is a relatively short time to talk about the relocation. We are negotiating and the final offer is not out yet. I don't want to jump the gun and tell her prior to it being an actual viable option. So yes, I was trying to do something non recreational but family oriented to hopefully see us as a family.

I have always taken care of the yard outside of gardening that she enjoyed when she was physically able to do so. I plan ahead accordingly, take an allergy pill, hit the yard and immediately shower afterwards. Never an issue with us on that.

On the quick trip thing. I agree. I need to do it more. It is the financial part that scares me that she would throw that in my face. I would go to my sisters where I would only have to pay for gas and some food, but there would be no way she would be comfortable going there now.

I'll put off buying anything for the yard and just casually bring it up and see how it goes with her.

I do believe, weather permitting as we have some rain coming in, that I will get the kids out to play in the cul-de-sac and sit out with a chair at least once in the next week. If she joins, cool. If not, I get to hang and watch my kids play.

Knew I was pursuing with my attempts.

Thank you. No, it is not that simple. She is my W and my future. I don't know if the future will be short term or long term. I do feel the major decisions kind of happen when they happen due to the build up and reaching the point of no return. It is those little decisions that can either cause her to pause and think of our relationship and MR or solidify her decision to end it. This is where I don't know where/how/when to go and I appreciate the guidance. Not much communication today, just texts about the kids and getting them where they need to be. Pleasant enough and not combative, so I have that going for me today.

Concentrating and gearing up for a db'ing weekend. I am confident, pleasant, and fun for the next 72 hours!

and not just on the weekend, I truly am happier now that I am accepting the things that I can control (myself) and the things I cannot (everything else).