Am I Piecing, or Pi$$ing in the wind???

[Clyde]

I will agree, Clyde, you put yourself back in this situation. You took her back very easily after what you went through. So now, yes, you do have to work with the situation you are currently in.

My advice to you: Do not treat her as a wife, and do not expect her to treat you as a husband. That means, no touching her at all (the foot rubs, seriously have to go) let her tease you with her yoga stuff. I cannot imagine you find anything attractive about her right now. She has made herself quite ugly. A little pair of yoga booty shorts shouldn't wash away that ugliness.

Do not hand her a dime. Do not make her a meal. Take nothing form her and give her nothing.

This is tough, I am proceeding as best as I can analyzing her actions/ the state of things as i go, and since they changed rapidly, its only made it tougher.

Her selfishness is something that developed over the last 2 years, now that she is pursuing - should I expect that selfishness to vanish suddenly?

She had to work Fathers Day from 10 - 5, she never asked or tried to make plans other than asking what plans were. I told her that we were just going to ride bikes and hang out, then go to dinner at my folks house, I did not invite her at that point. Fathers day morning she made me breakfast before going to work, before leaving she asked if the kids and I were still planning on going to my folks house for dinner, I said yes - and told her she is more than welcome to join us. Up to this point I had been LRT. I did not think she would go, but she showed up, my family knows things are not going well, my parents still manage to be open armed to her, my sister on the other hand would not look at her when she showed up to dinner. W was a little late, and there was no room at the table for her, my sister's kids were at the table and usually a kid would get the boot to make room for the adults, this did not happen though. My W went and sat at the counter to eat, after about a minute I was feeling bad for her so I went and joined her. though we sat together, we did not talk all that much.

It was later that night when she jumped my bones and then cried afterwards, going forward from there has been really nice on the surface, W has been pursuing me, can't keep her hands off me, been super nice etc. Meanwhile there is much that has yet to be resolved.

We had planned on going to a concert together (planned it last month), given the state of our R, I bought a ticket to go by myself last week. The show was a few days ago, I either had to break the news I was going solo, or ask if we still planned on going together. I chose to do the later, when I asked her, she said yes, and that she would buy the tickets. I already had bought my ticket, and since I did not want her to know, I told her that I would go ahead and grab the tickets, but that she was on the hook for dinner and drinks. She said that sounds good. I then said,

M: "I just want to make sure we are going to be able to go and have a good time, I can't do any more drama, are you going to be able to handle it?"
W: "As long as you are not going to pick any fight w/ me" (She says this while chuckling as if she is joking... referring to our last outing where she bought up the "sister" and teddy parties.)
M: "Thats not even funny, we both know how that went down, don't be bringing stuff up that you know I will react to, I'm not going to have it."

At that point she just kinda laughs it off, embraces me and gives me a kiss.

So we go to the show and have a great time, W still can not keep her hands off of me and is showing more PDA then usual, this is all a far cry from anything I have seen over the past 7 months since she came home.

So now I am trying to figure out my course forward, I have been warm and reciprocal to her advances, we've been intimate a couple of times a day in the past few days, a couple of them I took to the next level as we were kissing etc.

I have broken down the household finances... she has not contributed nearly enough, at this point we should be as close to a 50/50 split as possible. This is a talk we will have to have in the next few days.

I don't know that I can state my stance about the "sister" and my W's disrespect/lack of consideration when w/ her any more clearly than I already have. Should I bring it back up, or did she get the message?

As I stated in an earlier post, she initiated this separate finances - her money is hers dynamic, yeah I could of used her help last month, but that is rare. So going forward, she no longer has me to cover her a$$ financially.