I will also say that I think our age difference is not a real issue (I am turning 42 and she is 31) but with her recent discovery she has ambitions and felt trapped that it seriously caused a problem. Why she engaged in a PA when her desire was to leave the state was what took me aback especially since x-OM had no desire to do that. I think it was a bad combination of factors. But ever since she has been planning the move and seen me be supportive she seems more appreciative of that. Not sure what I am trying to say but I do think it played a major role in the sitch. I was also happy to just settle here (we had bought a home, her idea in fact) and I was complacent in my job that offered a certain security. She in the meantime only saw challenges and limitations here and was like: I am 30 is this all there is for me?
