Love bombing is a particular stage of the sweet cycle and those who haven't been in that cycle can't understand it. The love bomber mirrors the love bombed, they are feeding back who they are to the love bombed target. You are as a target effectively falling in love with yourself.
The predator does this because they can and it works. As a target you come already primed from an earlier dysfunctional R, carrying a neon sign saying 'only predators need apply'.
This is your second R of this type, so the only way of dropping that sign is to explore yourself and become. Being self aware and understanding the dynamics is important to preventing this again or being sucked back in.
I like your L and I like his strategy, just an aside the question in court issue is great. My L did that on the G living with his landlady! in Italy and her assets. They did ask me questions on my new R they were sure I was having with a gay guy in his 70s. Hilarious. There alternate was a client for whom I do tax returns for him, daughter and wife. A wonderful happily M man who has an orthodox religious belief.
I have one thing I wanted to say and I have waited to say it until your sitch is more stable. It's this. Please get a paternity test, am I saying this because I believe that the little guy is not your son? No. It's because I believe he is your son and getting that confirmed now will cut any games in that direction. Proving it later may be tough if things go nasty.
You are an awesome dad Orange.
You have come a long way since arriving here.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
