Detachment and mutual friends

[kiro]

One of the similarities with my situation is that the girls were also the ones who planned most of these activities. Once problems started between my W and me, I was left completely in the dark. She stopped telling me what was going on. That got me very angry at the beginning, which probably increased the problems between us. I was bitter, angry and resentful.

But with time, things started evolving. Believe it or not, the problems between us also affected the entire group of friends. They don't know how to deal with our problems. It is very awkward for them too. And it often even causes tensions between other men and women in the group. In my situation, I think it sort of split up our group into 2: one group that is more family oriented and are closer to me, and another group that is more activity oriented and is led by the girls.

So now, I am sure that there are many outings that I am not invited to anymore. I don't know if my wife goes or not. I don't even care. And there are other outings more family oriented where both my W and I are invited. I go to some of these mostly for the kids, but my W doesn't.

But I working on GAL outside of this mutual friends group. Same for my kids.