Don't believe what she says. My W was telling me that she just wanted space and did not have feelings for OM anymore- even the day she was walking out the door and keeping the peace- looking back though it was just so W could get what she wanted from the house and to improve her living standards and then jumped in full R with OM.
Raw - thanks for taking the time to feedback, and for reassurance that I probably handled this ok. I hope you're right. But you are definitely right that I shouldn't believe what she says. And I don't. Particularly about the OM, but as you know, there's not much I can do about it, especially once she's out of the door. She does say she wants space, and actually this has been a common theme for a long time, so I do believe that part, and she'll get that. But with space also comes the ability to sleep with who she wants and when she wants, which I'm sure is also in her mind, knowing what I know about her and WAWs. I suppose the same applies for me too, eventually, but I'm not in the frame of mind yet.
I will certainly push on with my GAL, and feel a renewed vigour towards that now I have some certainty that this is absolutely happening.
I will let her go for sure, and although my nice guy syndrome means I'm instinctively predisposed to be helpful towards her, I will try my hardest to let her do this all alone. It's hard - I do still love her and care for her, but know that this is really her choice and actually she wants to and has to manage without me.
_______________________________________________ M47 W50 T-21 yrs M-19 Yrs S17 S15 D12 Found out about A 04/12/18 BD 04/15/18 Admitted A, name of AP and separate rooms 04/29/18 Told kids 07/22/18
