SO i had meeting with L last night. Here are some good points that were made.
He said "For getting this far by yourself, you have done a good job with all this"
He believes that we could argue for better child support setups.
He said that we have an advantage with some of the things WW has done such as co-sleep with OM and S3, and her being dishonest about where she is staying with S3. He mentioned filing a form to have her verbally answer all these types of questions under oath and that this is the stage a lot of divorces get decided because the "guilty party" ends up getting very squeamish and nervous when asked to substantiate their lies under oath. He said this would be when we go in for a new settlement regarding child support. He also mentioned that the several times WW has invited me ti violate the TRO, and the times she has claimed ignorance regarding the TRO is helpful also. It shows she isnt actually in fear of me, and has had several opportunities to educate herself and request a copy of the TRO from the court and has not done so.
He also instructed me on how i can get more detailed information regarding the criminal history of FIL and the details of what he did that caused him and WW to not be able to see his other daughter. He did bad things, this i already know, but the police reports will show it in much more detail.
----------------------------------------------------------- Unrelated, Yesterday also included two interesting interactions with WW. One was through my sister in law, regarding the 50% of the Dr. Bill She still has not paid me back for. The other was between her and I, in regards to the 6th time i have asked to clarify what plans we are making for S3 on week of July 4th as the daycare is closed all week. If you recall her reaction to this was "Can your parents take him for a week, and Mom, do you have any days off you can take to watch him? I dont want to miss any work"
Convo between SIL and WW:
SIL: Hi WW, I Know OrangeK had reached out to you regarding the check for your half of S3's Dr. Appointment. I would just like to be aware of when i can expect that, i belive its been a couple of weeks now. Hope you're Well, Thank you!!
WW: Hi SIL, I apologize, OrangeK hadnt told me you helped him pay that until a couple of days ago. Ive been waiting on new checks as i ran out, He told me to send him a check for the payment, so you will have to get it from him. He should have it in the mail in the next couple of days. Sorry i would have sent it directly to you if i had known that.
SIL: No worries@not a problem for me to get it from OrangeK. I just wanted to make sure we were on the same page as its been a while since S3 went to the Dr. Thanks For Following Up!
WW: Of COurse! If i had been on the same page as you guys from the start, i would have just sent it directly to you, sorry.
SIL: I understand, no need to apologize. Where it goes isnt as much of an concern as it being delivered in a timely fashion. So i appreciate you getting that out. OrangeK is aware he should see it in the next few days Have a good rest of the day!
(it should be worth noting she told ME, she had already put it in the mail a few days ago.) ------------------------------------------
Convo between WW and I
I have asked about 5 times over the last week and a half about how we are scheduling July 4th week with no daycare for S3. She has ignored me each time i asked.
Yesterday 2:30pm. Me: Please let me know about what dates you would like S3 to go up to my parents house, i need to make plans with my mother regarding when you or I will be dropping him off and picking him up with her that week.
WW: NO REPLY
5:21pm ME: I am sending S3 up to my parents house on June 30th. You can meet up with them halfway to their house on July 7th At the travel plaza we have met them at before. Please just get in touch with my mom when its close to that day so you guys can choose a time to meet up.
5:22pm (notice how she ignored me ASKING about it for 7 days, but when she hears something she doesnt like, i get a reply WITHIN THE Minuet) WW:Well i was going to text you and makes plans for this once I wasnt busy and we could actually go over the schedule together, but thank you for making those plans without me and telling me where i need to be and when. *"OK" hand symbol Emoji* (her favorite sarcastic emoji)
6:21pm - WW: I will be in touch with your mom that week to make plans before Saturday. It will most likely be a morning/earlier in the day pickup.
I chose not to reply to these as the seemed like they would turn into an argument if I did. She didn't like being told where and when things would happen, even though i asked her "What dates would work for you" several times.
