Thanks Hongaku. I really appreciate the support and positive validation. I never really know if how to play these situations but it felt right in the moment, and as I've reflected on it, still feels right.
Would appreciate peoples thoughts on how best to play the next few days though. We agreed to let our decision settle for a while and then speak again. Probably Monday. How should I behave in that time, noting of course that whilst the kids are around I'm still having to be as normal as possible?
Should I be back to full LRT and detaching? Would seem odd to her as we did get on well together yesterday for me suddenly not talk to her, but maybe that's what she needs - she wants space, she gets space and I do my thing.
I also don't know what she'll do with the OM thing. I know I shouldn't focus on it - I've said my piece, if she had any kind of respect for me, she'd stop for the time being. But I don't believer for one second that she will, and that unfortunately still gets to me a lot. Makes me feel sick actually. But I can't raise it again for a while - she needs to deal with it. Particularly if she does want to be friends as she says. Friends don't treat each other like dirt, which is what she's being doing to me.
What advice would give in respect of the OM thing?
_______________________________________________ M47 W50 T-21 yrs M-19 Yrs S17 S15 D12 Found out about A 04/12/18 BD 04/15/18 Admitted A, name of AP and separate rooms 04/29/18 Told kids 07/22/18
