Is it time to take stock and change my behavior? I am wondering if I am in the last bucket of MWD's explanation where some WASs are just not willing to work back into the MR no matter how hard you try.
Just after saying he does not want to sell house this year 3 days ago, today he confirmed he has called in a realtor to get an appraisal. I only said OK. I have to think more about this and tell him if I am willing to sell this year or not.

He was in one of his moods today for some reason. I only Spent 15 minutes together with kids around but he couldnt just control himself.

H- You havent inculcated D3 to wish me for father's day this year
I - Oh but we did, remember the first thing as soon as you came down in the morning we wished, and she is just 3 doesnt understand much.
H - I see how this R is going to be after we are done, its just 45 more days I cant wait to be done. You are just being selfish and self centered as usual
I - I am sorry you feel that way but we did wish you.

H - You also did xxxxxxx, and f***d us over.
I - please dont swear in front of D3, it affects her.
H - You have given me so much grief for something much smaller, and this is what you did, the loss is so much
I - we couldnt foresee it , we both did it unknowingly but I agree the loss is huge, so unfortunate.
H - you used to yell at me whenever i brought it up
I - when have I yelled about it?
H - Not after I started this , now you have become meek but earlier you did
I - I am sorry if I did( i might have so I just apologized more than validating)
H - Cant believe you did such huge blunders and walks away

I got myself out of there before he could launch another round of attack. I have no idea what his decision will be next and what he will do, I dont think he does either. I did not voice it out but him leaving in 45 days is actually a good thing for all of us, he needs some alone time to reassess and hopefully do some introspection and not use me as a punching bag.

My biggest 180 according to me is that I am being patient, it is not inherent to me, i used to be a fire cracker and he had problems with it. Now my being patient he is seeing as meek. Is my 180 backfiring?