Im probably not explaining or expressing the issues very well. Its not that its not possible - it just is difficult when you are trying to detach GAL and carve out your own path. The dynamic with our friends are the girls usually drive the social life and plans - as many of my guy friends cant be bothered (they might end up here with me!). So I feel there is a control factor at play -it feels like my wife makes plans (even weekends at a time) to maintain control of me and the family.

When we are with friends, we barely talk - but also act like nothing is wrong. I basically feel like it is an element of our life that gives her control over me - which I dont like.

The more I detach the more I dont feel I can really COMPLETELY detach unless we seperate. Does anyone else feel this way?

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