Dejavue MLC H

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I don't know if anything is the norm but I would say that that's a good thing. I don't know if other folks around here would agree, but to me as a die-hard stander, I welcome anything that indicates that we are husband and wife, since our actual life never does! I am glad when my H refers to himself as my H or me as his W even though it is by worldly standards unfair, hurtful, selfish, etc. I try to always be welcoming about such things but I know that on these boards folks would most likely advise you not to allow that stuff and to create a stronger boundary. On things like that that aren't hurting me directly, I prefer to please God than to try to set a boundary. At any rate, if I can't tell if I am doing something for my own healing or to teach H a "lesson," then I assume I am acting out of some kind of bitterness, which is the slavery I want to avoid, no matter what H does. If I can tell that a limit will allow me to have some healing, then I might limit more. But mostly for things like that I just ask God for help with my pride.