Advice on my Scenario Pt. 15-Lighthouse Guardsman

[OrangeK]

See, this triangulation and susceptibility the love bombing isn't so much her, it is YOU. Sure, she chose you as a target, because you would easily fall into it.

Somewhat Disagree, Please look up the Narcissistic Abuse Cycle.
I am susceptible to it for sure, but her methods were pre-planned, deliberate, calculated and precisely executed.
I do not feel as though my (at the time unknown) susceptibility, empathy and openness gives anyone the excuse, or justification to exploit those usually positive personality traits.
She Chose me, Love-bombed me, got my mentally addicted to the endorphin release and peptides, then slowly the devalue set in, then BAM discard time.
I have identifiable personality traits such as empathy, compassion, and being a hopeless co-dependent romantic that SHE IDENTIFIED as reasons to target me as a viable source of emotional validation. She is now thriving off of the negative attention a contentious divorce, which allows her to play the victim to her whole new social circle.
What she planned and did is NOT my fault, she simply took advantage of my good nature, which in some ways makes me vulnerable to the type of mistreatment she survives on. She NEEDS it.

So, in the scheme of things, the most important knowledge you can gain is the power to get to the bottom of why you were so susceptible to this. To work on those issues so it doesn't happen again. So you can be comfortable enough as not being a part of couple and provide some of your own happiness and fulfillment as a man. To not fall so hard before you really get to know someone. To see the love bombing as a serious red flag.

Oh agreed 100%. I think in my previous post I identify MY flaws that made me susceptible to this.
A Narcissist doesn't ever see a need to change or flaws in themselves. Its amazing how they have such a flawed and damaged self image and self esteem but, yet at the same time are SO arrogant to believe they are flawless, perfect and deserving of God-like praise.

I wish i had known then what i know now (obviously), because at the time, the Love Bombing was not a red flag as it should have been. I was so hungry for that type of love, that level of devotion (false though it may have been) and that level of attention, i ATE IT UP.
NEVER AGAIN.

The work going forward is all in you. Time is completed wasted getting answers for why she is the way she is. Or why she did what she did.

Take this as the greatest opportunity for growth and strength as an individual.

I agree, and honestly it has dawned on me in the last few days that I DO have all the answers ive been seeking. They are all built into what i have learned about her personality disorder. Therein lies the explanations for all she has done to me, and others. Her wiring is actually pretty simple, she has and will repeat the same behaviors. It all boils down to 2 things really.
1.) The False self and the Real Self. The Mask and the Face Behind it. She projects this image of perfection, beauty, compassion and cuteness into the world, as her Mask, to hid the self-loathing, guilty, jealous, paranoid and vindictive personality who is constantly struggling with a fear of abandonment, exposure and humiliation. It really must be an exhausting, awful way to live. I TRULY pity her, and hope to the Heavens she eventually sees a need to get real, professional help.
2.) The need for attention. Due to the deficiencies listed above, she is in constant need of both positive and negative attention.
She needs at least 1 person in her life to Mirror who she Wants to be and Projects being into the world, and another for her to treat as scapegoat, and project her negativity and flaws upon. Once the person in position A has been revealed to her to be IMPERFECT (as ALL humans are), she sees them as deficient and deplorable, and they are moved into position B, while the search for a new Position A commences. Once this is found, the cycle begins again.

Its all in my hands, she is shoehorned into her patterns, My only objective is to move away, emotionally, and complete detachment.
Focus on myself and S3.
She is behind me, and im never looking back again.

Its all finally fitting together, and falling in place.