I think he kept trying to get her to get help and then gave up. He says now he thinks he "should have let her hit bottom" but I actually think that's not always the way. His oldest daughter is mad at him for not helping mom but she wasn't home for those last three years and he says he doesn't want to diss their mom to them by telling them everything.
He SEEMS like a guy who just misses the closeness they had early in their marriage and stuck it out when things started to go downhill because he had kids (and is somewhat religious). He may have been an enabler, or just a guy who liked to spoil his wife. Maybe she had depression or was drinking early on and he just didn't see the signs.
But then again, he COULD be a controlling OCD jerk who had affairs and drove his wife to drink - I don't THINK so but definitely want to find out for sure. I just feel super suspicious after the last boyfriend.
