Hi STH, this is a difficult time. It's hurtful to watch your spouse act like they don't need you any more. The same happened to me. I cooked my husband elaborate meals for years based on his parents' recipes and I basically did everything for him - cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping... When he left last year he moved to our house which wasn't yet done and didn't have a functioning kitchen and some of the walls were even still exposed to the elements. He ate fast food every day and slept in a construction site just to be away from me and commented how it was much better. Now the house is done and he cooks for himself. I guess everything I ever did meant nothing. It's one of the worst ways our spouses betray us. I've also been in your shoes living with a husband who's having an affair or after the affair when we're barely talking - it's almost impossible not to be resentful. If your wife is still having an affair it seems not much will change until she and her partner break up. I hope it won't be long and if you really work hard to manage your actions and emotions then there's still a chance she'll see her own fault in this situation and seek your forgiveness. It did happen to me when I was in your shoes a few years ago - my husband came begging for me to take him back. Then he did the same thing again in my case but you have more knowledge from this site to create a better outcome for yourself and your child.
