So you don't know what your W is going through but even if she doesn't have any of that: is that really someone you want to be with? As long as she is a good mom to S3 the two of you can go your own ways and SOMEONE will notice you and appreciate you for who you are. This is not easy....
I agree this is not easy. It takes time and effort to get to this point. When you first get BD'd you are at your lowest and you can't imagine ever being with another woman. Over time though you start to make a shift and then you start to accept that maybe your MR was not that great after all. That maybe your spouse wasn't the best partner to begin with. Own your side of the fence, your mistakes, but don't accept 100% of the blame for your MR failing.
I found out today that my EW introduced her BF to my girls. I told her I was disappointed and frustrated that she didn't tell me but that overall I was cool. She did apologize, etc. but I know she will always operate in their best interests. That even though I am moving forward I will be there if she ever gets in a bad spot. I have accepted that she no longer wants nothing to do with me and it is obvious she is in love with her BF. As long as she is a good parent and co-parent to my D's then that is all I can ask.
I do believe she still cares for me, I know it is still inside of her but other than that she is done. I can accept that. At the end of the day you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you.
