Advice on my Scenario Pt. 15-Lighthouse Guardsman

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My .02 cents on the whole lying about the pregnancy?

You say she is a master manipulator. However, the only person who believed her was you. It seems as if everyone else saw through her. You defended her. So, she was only good at manipulating you.

Of course, because you loved her and didt want to believe anything bad. The question is why did you believe her and no one else and defend her to the bone?

I can speak from personal experience. There were other women exH lied to me about when we were dating. My friends knew he was lying. Everyone knew. But all I had to hear him say was I didnt do it. That was enough for me! WHy? Well, therapy and facing reality told me why. Because I was just about in the most awful place in my life when I met him. I couldnt bear to lose him. So I believed what I wanted to. I wouldnt have told you that back then, but I know I did it now.

Usually there is a reason why we trust those who arent trustworthy. Why we choose to believe them when those we love and are close to us tell us otherwise. And maybe our gut tells us not to trust either. But we do it because....

What made you trust her more than your family and friends who didn't believe her after knowing her for a short time? Were you terrified to lose her? if so, then why?

This is where you begin to be honest with yourself. Being brutually honest with myself was the hardest part of this process but very relieving when you put the pieces together.


Instead of wasting so much energy trying to figure out why she did what she did, you would be much better served trying to figure out why you did what you did. Why you jumped in so fast, why you trusted her so explicitly when she really didnt give you any reason to. Why you defended her so hard when your family could see right through her.

time to get to the bottom of why Orange K does what he does instead of why she does what she does.

I want to chime in and say that this post is gold, Ginger. Seriously. Orange, please internalize all of these words and know this is the most important thing for you to understand and focus on right now. I am in the same boat; you are not alone.