Although maybe she was cheating on him and that was his boundary.
For me I would need a lot more info, I do not believe many people learn anything from getting divorced.
Jumping in with a quick question...do you mean people in general? Or those that are WAS? Or those that initiate Ds?
Just curious
I am not actually sure of your question but to be more specific.
I would think most people in general do not come to DB or learn anything at all.
WAS would be included in the above, although my ex did stalk me here and I am sure she learned absolutely nothing other than what she could use to her advantage in our divorce proceedings.
I know people that have initiated divorces here from DB because they gave their WAS ultimatums, stop cheating or we will get divorced. FTR they are quite happy that they did this many years later their spouses are still deep in crisis and they have recovered and are living full happy lives.
If that does not answer your question then please continue to discuss.
Brilliant, thank you! Was what I was thinking you were saying.
I don't think I came to DB until very late (after October 2015).
And it was only then that I really started to understand what DB (the process) was all about. I think I might have inadvertently been doing elements of it before then, but not consciously or with any degree of consistency.
I've been trying to learn as much as I can, about myself mainly, and to see things in a different light. Not easy though, and there are some things I could barely admit to myself, let alone say them out loud to another person. But they are there in my consciousness, so that's good.
Recovery is looking a lot like acceptance at the moment...
