Go get L advice and take that advice. Cards chest close.
Never lie or pretend with kids. Use age appropriate language and answer questions. For all you think they know, they do. Kids know who is the wayward one. Lying to them even by omission creates cognitive dissonance and leaves kids dangling not believing the key adults in their lives.
Adults lie to kids for reasons adults lie. Not to protect their kids. Of course kids aren't involved in R or M or D discussions. But secrecy is not the answer nor is pretending things aren't as they are.
You create lots of kids problems if you involve them or if you get in the way of their R with the other parent. Most kids at 9 or 10 and beyond can manage their own R with mum and dad. If it's an abuse sitch it's different of course.
Those are my thoughts on it.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
