Wyoung, taking your child away for a month sounds like a great idea. That'll give your wife a chance to cool down. Perhaps that alone will help to improve the situation. If you haven't done so already, a one-time really sincere, well-planned apology for everything you've done wrong couldn't hurt before you travel according to what I found, if it's done in the right way. Perhaps you've already done that. Otherwise you sound right in the sense that detaching may not be the best approach given your individual circumstances. If I were in your wife's shoes I'd see detachment as further confirmation that you're not going to change, but on the other hand, if she says she's done, being too affectionate or going overboard with actions to prove your love could push her away as well. Maybe she'll think you're doing that to serve your own interests. It seems you need to be supportive of whatever she says she needs and wants to do, although it's very hard to support your spouse saying they want to leave. Also if she's not happy being a mother that's very sad - it seems you yourself could see a therapist privately to figure out the best way to reduce the impact on your child and to get real-life guidance on how to avoid aggravating your wife further. I hope you also get lots of additional advice here on this thread. It would be great to hear how it turns out for you.
