Hi KitKat, it's good to hear from you! How's your situation currently? Are you and your husband still doing well together? I hope everything is going great!
Thanks for taking the time to comment. I was responding to Ginger about the hopes and dreams being gone in response to my expectations before and after we had our daughter. Thankfully I made the move to another state, found work, re-engaged with old social networks and friends, and got my daughter started in a new school recently. Communication with my husband has improved so overall everything is better now than before. I'm pursuing career and financial goals but I'm putting relationship goals on hold and just letting everything stay open-ended for the time being.
That's amazing you drove your son nine hours to see his dad. It's hard to imagine how these fathers can miss out on their kids growing up and not bother to call. It's kind of unbelievable that your son is willing to go and see a father that doesn't make more effort towards him. I hope this current visit will strengthen their relationship and help them to stay in contact more often after the trip ends. It's good your son has you as the stable parent who is committed to him full-time.
My husband is very inconsistent so sometimes it makes me sound like a liar. After everything I've said here on this thread recently, today my husband called four times, twice while our daughter was at school. He said he's been too exhausted from his short visits when he gets back to his city to keep coming for two days at-a-time so he's arranging to come for a week in two weeks and he'll spend every day with our daughter. I told him that's great but I won't mention it to her until you know if it's actually happening. He said he'll let me know. Let's see if he comes.
I believe my husband does care about our daughter and wants to stay in touch with her when he's not busy with another woman. If there's another woman in the picture then he disappears like he did from December until February. There's nothing I can do about that. Previously I would tell him what a bad father he is and try to make him feel guilty but I stopped doing that completely. Now I see that he communicates better and calls more often when there's no pressure and when I don't ask questions.
I'm hoping whatever happens we'll continue to make progress with communicating well for our daughter's sake. Thanks again for checking-in. It'd be great to hear your updates!
