Re: parsing their histories

So far there are only two things - ok three - concerning me about CMM. The kinds of things you just need to find out more information about.

1 is his financial picture. I don't really know what it looks like, my fear is that despite his good earning history that he and his ex also had a bad spending history and that after the recession and the divorce he may be pretty broke. Then again, for all I know he could still have good savings and just be in transition. I know that he was in a townhouse after his divorce but had to move because after his knee surgery stairs weren't a good idea - what I don't know is if that was a rental too or if he bought the townhouse after his divorce and then had to convert it to a rental cuz he couldn't live there? At least he seems to have enough money to be taking me out to dinner again tonight. (he and his wife raised their kids in a fairly nice part of town and lived there for some time so if they didn't have equity out of the sale of their home it was likely due to refinancing OR having to sell during the downturn.)

2 - he initiated his divorce and his kids are mad at him AND his ex. This worries me even though his version of their marriage makes me think he was justified in leaving - still we know WASs can spin tales. Maybe he was difficult to live with (see number 3 below). Still, when I made a joke with him about the black dude in my bed (my son's 3 month old all black kitten) it evolved into him saying he just couldn't date more than one person at a time - reassuring comment.

3 - possible OCD. He's currently living in an apartment with a roommate and he was complaining that she doesn't keep the kitchen clean enough. Now maybe she's a total slob - but maybe he's an OCD clean freak, in which case I'm not a good fit. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a slob or a hoarder, and the cleaning lady comes every two weeks, but I'm not an impeccable neatnik either and wouldn't be a good match for one. And if he is OCD then his story about cooking meals for the family and leaving them in the freezer when he was gone on business trips because his wife didn't cook could actually be a control issue rather than a good father issue - hard to tell.