It's been 2 weeks since we last spoke on this. I know she is gearing up for something. From what I see it is S and/or D and soon and I do want to get ahead of that.
I would just ask an open question whether she has had any further thoughts since we last spoke, and leave it to her to tell me. We left it last time that she would see our CC to see if there was a way to work on her intimacy issues and then she was going to discuss with her mother to get her views. She's now done both, but not reported back on any of that despite saying she would, so it's a natural question to ask.
You're going to say forcing a discussion makes her more likely to confirm these feelings, but she's going to do that anyway at some point in my view, and if she is going to file for D, I would like to do so before she does. It would be adding insult to injury if she files after all she has done.
As I say, any information I get at this stage, in a civil, considered conversation, will be helpful to me. She could easily lie, and probably will, but I feel it's worth the risk.
_______________________________________________ M47 W50 T-21 yrs M-19 Yrs S17 S15 D12 Found out about A 04/12/18 BD 04/15/18 Admitted A, name of AP and separate rooms 04/29/18 Told kids 07/22/18
