I think I need to break DB rules and initiate the conversation tomorrow morning when the kids are gone. She should at least have the decency to tell me what she is feeling and that she has decided we need to separate. Any views on whether that would be the right thing to do now? It seems appropriate given the circumstances. I need to be able to defend myself and so this is just information gathering - she'll probably lie but she'll tell me some things I can use.
Any views on this guys? I do think it's time. I won't initiate in an emotional or agitated way, just matter of fact. From my side, I will still be full of validation, just feel we have to start communicating in some way. We have nothing at the moment. Can't be good, and really, although detaching/LRT etc is what DB'ing suggests, I think she is just not at the stage where she cares what I'm doing or thinking and is thus unaffected by this approach. It's been clear from her actions. She is the perfect example of detached actually! I should be more like her..
Anyway, views overnight would be appreciated. Thanks in advance!
_______________________________________________ M47 W50 T-21 yrs M-19 Yrs S17 S15 D12 Found out about A 04/12/18 BD 04/15/18 Admitted A, name of AP and separate rooms 04/29/18 Told kids 07/22/18
