Thanks Doodler. More great guidance, and you're right - time with the kids is more important than anything else. During this limbo period I've been doing all I can with them - all three of them individually and together. I am dreading the time when they aren't with me every day - I don't know how separated parents cope with that, but they clearly do, and so will I'm sure will I.
Between GAL with them, and with my friends (who I really do need to try to reconnect with as those friendships have definitely suffered during my M life), I'll make sure I get through this.
Thanks again.
PS- told the wife she had thin lips tonight and suggested botox. She nearly spat out her lychee martini... good one.
_______________________________________________ M47 W50 T-21 yrs M-19 Yrs S17 S15 D12 Found out about A 04/12/18 BD 04/15/18 Admitted A, name of AP and separate rooms 04/29/18 Told kids 07/22/18