So, going through the morning rituals and in passing, W looks "down". I ask what is wrong, expecting it to be me, and she says that she doesn't have a place here. Not in a time for me to go run off way, but a whoa is me, way. I replied "Sorry you feel that way." and kept moving.
She continued to mope around until she left for work. This is the first time I have seen W look sad in quite a while. She has been full of confidence and seemingly in charge for several months.
Could this be the start of a sense of Loss?
Well first of all, that was a great response. I'm so glad you didn't make the common mistake of trying to turn it into an R discussion. But next time don't ask what is "wrong" because that often puts a WAS on the defensive, instead say something like "you seem down today, is everything OK?" Try to open a dialog to get her to talk about her feelings.
Hard to tell what it means, she could be starting to have some regrets (it's been long enough for her to start asking herself if she's not perhaps making a mistake). But if that's what is happening she still has a long road to go so just keep doing what you're doing.
