GAL, 180's and all that are the perscribed method, and if it has worked for hundreds, it seems there is an established pattern there.
I know i have said this in the past, and its a recurring thought, so i figured i would bring it up again.
The issue i have with the method of GAL/ 180's, self care etc. is that it feels like letting her win. Like she got to do all these awful things, and will likely go on to do them again to someone else, without consequence, or any sort of reccompense for what she has done.
Focusing on 180's and GAL feels like turning around and walking away, and just letting her walk into the sunset with OM, and 50% of the time My Son.
I don't understand. How is you living a good life with your son letting her win?
What can you possibly do to stop her from going off into the sunset with OM. What do you have in your power to have her not do that?
You know how win's when YOU don't GAL or do 180's or make your like better for yourself?
That's when she "wins" and you "lose" Because she still marches off into the sunset with OM and you are just angry and bitter without making a great life for yourself.
FWIW, my ex H has exactly what he wants. He wanted to be a very part time father. he didn't want the same woman to be his wife and the mother of his kid. He did get what he wants. Did he "win"? Nope. Because whether he won or lost is no matter to me. All that matters to me is me and my kid.
