I was with my EW for 17 years and she never showed one once of remorse for what she has done either. No remorse for being selfish, for not wanting to work on the R, for breaking up our family, and the pain she has caused our children.
She has told family friends she never wanted to hurt me but that still did not stop her from doing so. She was a runaway freight train and there was nothing I could do to stop it. There was no amount of GAL, detaching, being an Alpha, 180's, etc. that was going to make a difference.
^^^ Seriously you could be describing me and my ex, except 5 years prior (my BD was 2012).
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Eventually you will get to a point to where you are done with the pain, done with giving her so much of your mental energy, and that usually goes hand in hand with you getting stronger. As I grew as a person, increased my confidence, focused on all the good things I have in my life or the things that I created post my EW leaving the more detached I got. You just have to keep moving forward and turn yourself into the best possible OK you can be. When you are operating at a high level, when you are confident, and know your value you will attract the right women into your life.
Precisely, well said!
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I did not get my EW to return to our MR however I am a completely different man than I was 1 yr ago today. I have turned a negative situation into the most transformational period in my life.
Yes, again I relate so well to your words. I just bought an art piece yesterday from one of my favorite artists, it's a sculpt of a burning tower based on the "Tower" tarot card. She was telling me about the symbology, how at first glance it appears the tower is burning down and all is lost, but in reality it is making way for something newer, better and stronger to be built. I bought it because I liked how it looked, but when she explained it to me I told her it must have struck a chord with me on more levels than I realized because that's very symbolic of my life the last several years.
