I was with my EW for 17 years and she never showed one once of remorse for what she has done either. No remorse for being selfish, for not wanting to work on the R, for breaking up our family, and the pain she has caused our children.
She has told family friends she never wanted to hurt me but that still did not stop her from doing so. She was a runaway freight train and there was nothing I could do to stop it. There was no amount of GAL, detaching, being an Alpha, 180's, etc. that was going to make a difference.
Eventually you will get to a point to where you are done with the pain, done with giving her so much of your mental energy, and that usually goes hand in hand with you getting stronger. As I grew as a person, increased my confidence, focused on all the good things I have in my life or the things that I created post my EW leaving the more detached I got. You just have to keep moving forward and turn yourself into the best possible OK you can be. When you are operating at a high level, when you are confident, and know your value you will attract the right women into your life.
I did not get my EW to return to our MR however I am a completely different man than I was 1 yr ago today. I have turned a negative situation into the most transformational period in my life. I still have some periods of sadness, I still look in my rearview mirror from time to time, there is a part of me as well that hopes my EW does wake up some day however I know I have to keep moving forward, and I am done wasting my mental space and energy on a woman that does not want to be with me. There are too many attractive women in this world, that have their $hit together, who would love to be with a man like me.
OK, just remember only you can pull yourself out of the muck. Everyone can offer advice and suggestions BUT YOU HAVE TO DO THE WORK!.
Keep moving forward.
That is pure gold. Heed this and you'll be good. More than good.
