It happened in stages for me. I was in limbo for about 8 months and then in Jan she told he she was ready to move forward. That helped a ton and yes once the D was finalized that helped as well. Now that I have started interacting with other ladies that has further pushed me down the path also.
It's just a process but early on we all had the same questions. I remember the sleepless nights, not eating, not being able to think about anything else, crying on my way to work, on the way home, talking to my mom 2 times a day, spending hours on this board reading, saving links......just anything that would help. I was a mess, crying at my desk at work even.
Just know that it does get better, what your experiencing is normal but in time you will heal and move on. Be grateful for you son, the memories you made, and you are now wiser and smarter for having gone through this ordeal. Your a young man with a long life ahead of you. Just try to learn and grown from this experience so your next R will be a healthy one.
I guess i misjudged timeframes. I found out about affair in Oct, and thats when we split up, So im 3/4 of a year into this, and i am a lot better than i was say, in Jan / Feb, but I really thought i would be a lot further along in healing by now, especially after knowing the scope and depth of the things she has done to me, said about me, and all with no remorse, not so much as a tear or a backward glance from her.
Makes me sick i gave my heart and soul to someone like that. I feel so duped.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
