Can I really do this #3

[Dtrmned]

She just changed the email address for her account.
Or that is what she said she did.
So I guess with that she din't remove me, just the place the statement was sent to.

Thanks Steve. I do think it was maybe a combination of both. Her justifying she is moving forward with her decision and her trying to provoke me. I didn't take the bait. I was calm and only asked the relevant questions, was calm and cool and thanked her when I ended the call.

I was actually a bit taken aback by the call. I prepared myself prior to only treat her more like just another person on the phone and not my W. The conversation was mostly transactional but polite. I steered the conversation with brief, direct questions. Validated the information she provided and ended the call. It was like I wasn't even speaking with my partner of 20 years! WEIRD!