KML - there's someone in my building who seems good who will babysit for a low $15 per hour so I'm hoping to start working with her to go to the divorce care groups.
Ginger, I should mention again that I've gone out plenty of times during the day and early evening, I just haven't done something like 6 PM - 12 AM on a Friday night or put my daughter to bed and gone out after that type of thing. My husband and I didn't have date nights after our daughter was born. She was born in his first year of residency as a physician and he was working 60 hours per week and studying for his monthly exams when he wasn't working. I was working too so that wasn't a time in our lives where we were really going out. We'd go out for lunch or for an afternoon sometimes but otherwise when we were both free we'd be doing errands and we were just drained. Then my husband got depressed, left for another woman, then he came back, then started all the excuses for not fixing the marriage - "just let me finish residency and we'll fix everything...just let me take the boards...just let me start my first month of work...let us have a break for a month where we just don't talk..." At that point he had no interest in date nights or going out.
Prior to having our daughter I envisioned us like most normal couples - enjoying our time with our daughter but still sleeping in the same bed like married people, going out on weekend nights, traveling like we'd planned, and settling into a real house instead of moving every six to twelve months. I thought my husband would help out and we'd be a team just like we'd been before having a child. None of that happened so all those hopes and dreams are gone.
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