44, we all struggle with that. I know I vacillated between the same kind of thinking. That she didn't deserve me anymore. And then that she was still the girl I married and I needed to give her more time.

44, the trick is until you embrace the first fully, and realize that the girl you married is gone. Forever. You don't have a hope of ever attracting her to a new MR. Let her go to get her back. That is the only thing that really works. You have to tap into that desire that innate in all humans that they want what they've lost or can't have.

And even then it isn't a guarantee, but at least you'll mentally be at a place where you don't care. That you can move on.

44 remember too that once you are over her, you don't have to deal with her ever again. I know it is hard to believe that you will be happy about that. But one day, if you end up D, you'll thank the Lord above that you two didn't have kids. And that you can move on.

Think of it this way: it is a win-win. Either you will have a renewed MR with a woman you love, or you will move on unattached to someone that truly deserves you.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018