exquisitetobe - Just to chime in here if you don't mind - as a note from other things we've chatted about. Since he's a cop, he's used to being "the authority". I remember suggesting to you that you consider a restraining order of some sort and you being (probably rightly) convinced that it would only escalate things and he would walk right through it.
As far as him trying to reconnect - you've not seen any signs of him changing. Just that his new shiny life hasn't worked out. He can add a veneer but most people never change. They just become more like what they really are. But they are still shiny enough to people who don't know what is behind the mask.
Just my 2 cents.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
