Your post provided me with a lot of help - as always.
I am 7 years post BD now, and still coming back here to the community of people who know about MLC.
My X has moved to a third-world country to avoid paying child support and his relationship with OW is over.
His life is sad.
I was particularly struck by your understanding about your XH: that "until he realised how much he had hurt the ones he loved - particularly his children, they would never be able to re-build a relationship."
I'm still waiting for this, for my kids, but pleased to hear that after 12 yrs, this is happening for yours.
It'd be great if you could post some more about how you are doing, but regardless, great to hear from you!
