O - you're only feeling stagnant because you are trying to escape the discomfort and pain. This is not going to happen quickly. It's taken me 12 months and my W was nowhere near what your W has done. The answer is infinite patience. I know it's not the sexy bada$$ answer, but it's the truth.
Your prime activity for yourself should be self-care. I saw your list of goals and that's awesome. I haven't had chance to respond to it, and I will do that at some point in terms of strategy.
There is some deep digging stuff with your emotions that needs to happen. I can't recommend finding a good IC enough. And don't look for an IC who's going to give you three practical things to do. That's good stuff, but you want an IC who isn't going to hand you answers but push you psychologically and emotionally in a safe way.
Thanks, I have tried 2 IC's and havent been happy with either, I should have had "Get a GOOD IC" on my list yesterday, as it is something i will be looking into. I am hoping where i will be closer to the city, one will be easier to find that i Jive with and makes me do the right work.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds