MY TRAGIC WAW STORY PART X

[ItHurts]

Hi Nicole, thanks for your post. Actually I've tried that...with the concert last month. That was something we did together every year and she hesitantly declined. This is where poster Artista says I have, in fact, initiated opportunities for her and I to go out and she didn't. To me asking her to that concert was the perfect scenario as you describe. It was something that we both did and enjoyed in the past. So that's where yet more confusion comes in. Wasn't that an alpha male move on my part? So it's confusing. My last post in the previous thread describes my confusion perfectly. A person can't be passive and aggressive at the same time. Yet the advice seems to be to do both. Have my picnic and wait for her to come out of the castle or just be aggressive and ask her out which would obviously reveal my intentions which is not maintaining a friendship with her.

I have thought about what you said though, that seeing where this friendship leads. Other relationship sites call the process a "False Friendship* whereby I essentially pretend I'm her friend and slowly move her into a relationship. I'm just not sure I have a lot of faith in that notion, butbit does exist and supposedly worked for some people.

The core of the issue here is whether I am supposed to be picnicing alone and waiting for her to come out of the castle or if I am supposed to be the alpha male and just outright invite her to my oicnic. Those are just two completely polar opposite different options to me thus my confusion.