Hi Arsh, I guess this thread is about to disappear but it seems often your husband is trying to intimidate you into complying with his demands by acting aggressive, using swear words, or threatening you. I think it's good you were honest about your mom and you can even tell him it's not his business how you'll manage once he's gone. It seems the most he thinks he can intimidate you the more he does it, but if you push back within safe limits (like you don't want him to go into a rage where he'll hurt someone or something) then hopefully he'll start to show more respect. It's hard because DB prescribes a certain set of actions but sometimes you also need to take individual circumstances into account, like if a 180 means you used to be controlling and now you're being complicit then it's great to do a 180, but if doing it means it's empowering your husband to act abusively then maybe it's not the best technique.
