Thank you V, Natash and AS, all your advice is spot on.
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It is also more loving to let it happen, truly to stop enabling and controlling. Think of this as the most gentle loving thing you can do. Because it is. For him and for your kids.
v, I will keep this in mind and tell myself this everytime I find a need to get him some help. Removing myself from the path of his wrath will bring peace and hopefully take MR to a better place
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I have had an awakening and realize my self worth. I, as well as you and many others here, deserve better...we deserve a spouse that wants to be with us
Natash, thank you I needed to hear that. Living all by myself for the first time ever in a country where I have no family is a fear but it is what will help us all heal including H. While I still hope for R, it has to be on better terms with things being way sorted out than the hot mess right now. AS, thank you for your input, H has said in past he might have a MLC or a quarter life C. But breaking up our house is not an answer for it nor can I make him see that. My focus should and is just my babies and their bright future.
