If there is an OM and wayward behaviour and no formal S then she is wayward.
Doesn't matter if once upon a time she wasn't. She is now.
Frankly until there is a formal S it's an OP.
It's an affair and not a bf.
I have a complete distaste for cheating scumbag behaviour and knickers off stuff. Knickers don't accidentally fall off, ooooops I dropped them and an OM fell in. It's a choice.
Most walkaways (Not yet heard of one who has) don't have a bf whilst living with their spouse.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW