Actually I'm pretty certain it was to see the OM. But I have moved on and will only raise it with her if/when I want to help make the case that she should move out when we do eventually have the R discussion.
And you certainly could be right. But regardless, you know she's having an A so that wouldn't exactly be a newsflash anyway.
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Thanks AnotherStander. I am duly back from the ledge. Another bad day yesterday, and more in control again today. Although Doodler and Vanilla seem to favor the 'kick her out' approach
Well we are all about trying to help people save M's here, that is the point of these forums. Sometimes you have to let go of your M now for a chance at saving it later though. But I've got to say I went back and read your first post and I really don't think your W is wayward. Your M went on autopilot and you were functioning more like roommates and business partners than H and W. You are both to blame for that. She finally went elsewhere to find what she was missing in the M, and shame on her, that is the wrong thing to do. But, I don't see her as some girls-gone-wild wayward that you should be kicking out. I see her as a WAS that you should be giving time and space while working on yourself. If SHE decides to leave then let her, but I most definitely would not recommend kicking her out.
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I will continue with my 180, LRT, GAL etc, and stay patient. Yep - it's a marathon not a sprint, I get that. Just hard to see that in the day to day.
Yes good, that is the perfect approach. And no it's not easy, especially early on.
