Well you don't -really- know that, she may have put them on to take pics, or because she was wearing a short skirt, or just wanted to feel sexy or who knows what.
Actually I'm pretty certain it was to see the OM. But I have moved on and will only raise it with her if/when I want to help make the case that she should move out when we do eventually have the R discussion. I will indeed try to reign this in and try not to let her get to me in this way. Detaching will help, and you're probably right - I'm not doing as well as I should be on this task. Will try to do better.
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Time to talk you back from the ledge. It's been two months since BD. Two MONTHS. That is nothing. You're in a marathon and two months is barely past the starting line. You don't know what you want right now, your mind is spinning out of control. All you know for sure is you want the pain to end. You see two options- recon TODAY or kick her out TODAY. Of those choices only one is under your control so you want to take it to get back some semblance of control in your life. But I promise you, it will bring you no sense of peace and relief. Only time will do that. You have got to be patient with yourself. Do not rush into any drastic decisions right now, just stop, take a deep breath and settle in for the long haul.
Thanks AnotherStander. I am duly back from the ledge. Another bad day yesterday, and more in control again today. Although Doodler and Vanilla seem to favor the 'kick her out' approach (thanks guys - definitely food for thought at the right time..), in my more rational moments I know that is not the best way to manage this situation. I will continue with my 180, LRT, GAL etc, and stay patient. Yep - it's a marathon not a sprint, I get that. Just hard to see that in the day to day.
_______________________________________________ M47 W50 T-21 yrs M-19 Yrs S17 S15 D12 Found out about A 04/12/18 BD 04/15/18 Admitted A, name of AP and separate rooms 04/29/18 Told kids 07/22/18
