I wonder whats going thru her head right now? Does she have any sense of the damage shes caused and about to inflict on our kids.
No not at all. The popular WAS refrain is "kids are resilient, they'll be fine!" And besides, she thinks this is all your fault anyway. You were a bad H, you didn't fill her needs, you didn't show her love, etc. etc. Rewriting of history.
