Advice for newcomer pre- bomb drop.

[Bern19]

Weekend update...

Sunday went well for about 4 hours and for some reason my mood just changed. Kids were acting out and testing my patience & wife was her typical standoffish self. Made it through church OK, but at dinner it just hit me. I didn't act out or cause a scene or anything, and was trying not to pout and act frustrated. But even my oblivious 13 year old could tell as he asked me if i was OK. The ride home was silent (well as silent as could be expected with a car full of boys) once we were home W asked what was wrong, I immediately faked a smile and said "nothing, i'm fine" and went about my day. I went into our bedroom to get out of church clothes and W follows my in, locks the door and initiates. Now, i can count on one hand the number of times she's initiated sex in the last 3 years. I wasn't expecting it, and even though I really wanted to say "no thanks" I caved. We didn't have intercourse, but performed an "oral" inspection on each other.

No relationship talk was had, and we went on about our day. Not sure if I was doing better at the 180 than i thought, or if she was throwing me a bone on fathers day. She's been known to do that before, but never initiates it.

Not reading anything into it other than she wanted it. What prompted her to initiate? I don't really care.

The 37 rules can be implemented now. You don't have to wait till bomb drop. I will be glad to help, if you'll tell me which rules you aren't sure about.

The ones that I was really struggling with were the ones about having an awakening & getting out. Without the bomb drop, i'm not sure about just taking off without an explanation when GAL. Also, i know i'm going to have issues with putting up a front of "everything is fine". I just know that i'll crack at times and let my emotions show, just like i did yesterday.

I'm working on getting some things set up to help with GAL. Working on getting my bike running to get back to riding with friends. Continuing to do projects around the house is another, but want to make sure that isn't perceived as me just trying to please her.