Well I refused to collect the kids for her and have them tonight stating that I had plans and it is not my night. Then she started spitting the venom stating that she has always had to do everything on her own- this is BS I did all the house work the school runs the cooking of teas and the baths and the list goes on. It felt so against what I wanted to do but now I do feel I reaclaimed a part of my balls back. I think she is going to make things difficult in the future as she holds a grudge and this will be brought up in many future debates. I have already agreed to look after the kids while she goes on holiday with friends- probably a lie probably with OM- next week and have had to sort all that out. She then brought up that she let me have the kids for Fathers Day on her weekend but then I pointed out that I had done the same for her the previous weekend when she lied about a birthday party that was not a birthday and that her mum was over and she wanted to see the kids wich was a lie too.
My counselor told me to ask a question like "Why do you want me to be there for you?". I told her my WW would not give any sort of affirming response, but she told me the question was more for the WW to think about and figure out in her own head and her own time.
Sounds like she is cake eating, seeing if she can go galavanting around town with OM and have the benefits of an H at home.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
