Meanwhile 12 Years Later

[DonH]

Well since several of us here are reporting on our weekend dates... I went out with wild girl - which I think is the perfect name for what to call her here. LOL. She lives just a bit over an hour away and as I'm driving to meet her in her small town, I get a text saying "I'm really looking forward to seeing you." Hmmmmmm, nice touch girl. We met on a patio for drinks and perhaps some food. We were both right on time. Her cousin's friend was in from Chicago and she really wanted to see them as well - so much she was nearly torn about keeping our date a few days ago but we decided she should do both.

I found out more and was able to verify other things. The topic of age did come up. She's said before I'm not her typical type or out of her box but didn't elaborate. I'm now better understanding that. Sounds like she's gotten a reputation with the younger guys. She's 42 so I when I told her I'm 55 (only after she asked) she took a bit of a breath and said "It's only a number" as if trying to convince herself.

There was only one brief, slightly awkward silence. Otherwise the conversation, laughter and flirting went well. It was really hot outside, she loves the heat, and it was fine by me since we were the only ones out there which netted me several really nice kisses. I was able to clear up the married guy thing. Not sure if this is shades of the truth and I know as with so many here, people tend to believe what they want to when people tell them things - even though they might know deep down something is wrong - like when someone claims they are not having an affair to their spouse and the spouse wants to believe it. This dude claimed he was separated and D was filed. It was after his wife became pregnant that it came apart and she left. Much better than knowingly carrying on an affair on her part.

She was supposed to leave to meet the others at about 6. Well 6 became 6:30, then 7:00 then a little after when she said she'd better go. More kisses on the street and I said I'd walk her to her car. Well instead she walked me to her friends bar where she had sent the text from earlier. They told her to bring me back if she liked me. Well she did. There was hardly anyone in the bar so we had a few more kisses and a very interesting somewhat brief encounter as we went to the restroom. I shared the details with Ginger off line but the rest of you will have to use your imagination.

I really get the feeling I could have pushed things much father. She even said she promised herself she would not sleep with me on the first date. I just knew it was the best to get her to her friends and end an otherwise pretty nice first date after about 4 hours. We went our separate ways although had one or two texts after. She asked if she could call me after she got home later that night but she fell asleep at her friends house.

She was with her family for fathers day. I'm on my way to a gig when my phone rings. It's a guitar player who is now the father-in-law to her brother. I've known him professionally for like 30 years or more. He called to say hi after wild girl to them of our date. "I'm with wild girl's family. I hear you and wild girl had a hot date yesterday." he says. So she obviously told her family - who know me and I was with last weekend. Can't image she'd have done that if she wasn't interested in at least another date or two. Nothing much more since.

So that's how it went. What do I think? Well... I found out things to confirm my suspicions - including pretty significant physical abuse from her ex H. The girls (15 & 17) don't even see their dad anymore. That's sad. It also has to do damage and may be why she leads with sex and not committed hook ups. This is more behavior of a 22 year old not 42. Am I wrong? She is clearly not serious GF material for long term. But I'm nearly certain we will be going out again. Not sure about the cruise. I did bring it up in a round about way - mostly because I was informed on Friday they want my guest's name, DOB, etc. NOW. I think I've still got it pushed off but let her know about this trip and how I get to take someone. I just have reservations she may be too wild and the very last thing I'd want is someone embarrassing me in front of hundreds of people who know me. Remember, I'm there to perform. I DO NOT do drama like that and have never had a "scene" with someone in my life. I'm not starting now.

This post has already gotten long and I'm nearly certain it will be continued, but I already find this interesting. Other than the prior damage and other "issues" at play, she really is what I think and thought I was looking for: Someone that is not looking for serious or a BF, someone that is fun, doesn't live too close so as to "stop over" daily, etc. and someone great in bed. It would appear that's what I've found, but now I'm not so sure it's what I want. I really worry about all the other guys - for multiple reasons including medical. It's nice that I'm in a "Safe" place as there is no way I'll fall for this girl. If she cuts it off, it won't be much of a blow and certainly not like it would be if I really was falling for her. Yet, hmmmmmm, I'm just not sure. Actually, my brain is pretty sure but the rest of me is enjoying it too much to stop. It's still nice to be have someone to do things with. Not going to lie, getting a text or like the phone call yesterday just feels good. I'm in a much better mood - which pisses me off too as it should not take something like this to be in a better mood. I should be putting myself there - not her.

Anyhow, that's the latest. We will see what happens this week. She wants to come and see my house - I know which part of the house too. That might happen this Sunday, but nothing at all confirmed yet. And there you go!